Autism, Too much to carry
Autism is on the verge of entering a new degree of difficulty in our world. My daughter is approaching a size/weight where it is more and more difficult for me to pick her up. This means that the risk factor of being in public goes up significantly. Going out in public for us is somewhat of a crap shoot. About 90% of the time, it is not an issue. We can go anywhere. 10% of the time, it is a complete disaster.
However, I can still pick my daughter up and leave whether she wants to leave or not.
In the near future, this will not be the case. She will soon have the advantage. The “drop and go limp” technique that I am sure most parents of kids with autism are familiar with, will be an even more powerful weapon in her bag of tricks.
So, we need to really amp up the work with her on transitioning and being in pubic, OR Daddy needs to start hitting the gym and doing some weight training!
Filed under: Autism Awareness, Autism NOT in the News, Family, Misc
I always tell parents of little ones to envision their child as grown… cute little kid-hugs become frightening assaults, lessons in complaince become lessons on how to be a victim, and: my little portable guy is now 6′3″, 325 (thanks, medications) and drops require a backhoe (I tend to wait him out - in the middle of the street -a rare event, thankfully- I stand over him to divert traffic.
We can go to the gym, do enviro mods, etc: all just buying time; the big efforts must go into behaviour mods, imo.
Today, my son seriously hurt one of the ladies at his school by the limp and lifeless drop episodes he has and he is only 4 yrs old and in pre-k. I am worried about what my husband and i will do, because my son weighs in at a whopping 72 lbs and it is getting impossible to lift him up and get him wherever. He has uncontrollable rages and has already broke my nose once. I guess it won’t ever get any better. At times i feel like giving up but when he looks at me and smiles or comes up to give me a hug, i feel ashamed of how i feel at times. We adopted him when he was 4 months old and my husband and i aren’t getting any younger( he’s 48 and i am 41) and i constantly worry about what will happen to him if something ever happens to us. we have nobody to help us and their aren’t many services in our state that offer any help or solutions. In our case, your title holds more meaning than just “too much to carry”.