I am sick and frickin’ tired of seeing these autism murder suicides. Mom or Dad can’t take it any more. Can’t bear to think of how their child’s life will end up, decides to off everyone involved. For some reason, these people who are good at killing their children, often screw it up and survive themselves. How convenient.
This case in particular pisses me off. Gigi Jordan feeds son, 8, fatal dose of pills, leaves strange 2-page note in botched murder-suicide.
Why? Other than the obvious, you killed your kid, douchebag, Gigi Jordan has a net worth of $100 million dollars thanks to the ever lucrative pharmaceutical business. That’s $100,000,000.00. That’s a lot of zeros that could have done wonders for that child. Can you imagine all that could be done for kids with autism with $100 million? Off the top of my head, I would start an ABA based school, living facilities for
adults with autism, and maybe an Autism Farm along the lines of the
Imus Ranch.
By all accounts, Gigi tried everything to help her son. While I don’t always agree with where the “neuro-diversity” crowd draws the line and I know
autism symptoms can be reduced via the proper
treatments, this is a case where they are right and you need to accept your child for who he/she is today.
Since Gigi Jordan survived, that money will probably go to a bunch of lawyers who will no doubt argue that autism stress was the root cause of this homicide.
I get that this is a difficult journey for many of you. I get that you’ve lost friends and family thanks to autism. I get that you don’t get enough help, don’t get a break. I get that many of your spouses abandoned ship long ago and left you to fight these battles alone. I get that you feel like you are on a never-ending roller coaster ride from hell. I get that you have met lots of clueless doctors and educators along the way. I get that it’s a 24/7 job and will be for the rest of your lives for a lot of you. I get that. What I don’t get is killing your kid. If you are heading down that road,
contact me or someone please. These kids have a lot of life to live. They have feelings. Do you want your child’s last memory in this world to be you murdering him/her?
(And, Yes I know I need some line breaks in this entry, but Word Press is playing difficult today. Sorry.)
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I agree. They should send me the kid even without the money. It’s just not right to take the life of an innocent child. Yes, more support and the like is needed, but is there really a reason to kill a kid?
I don’t get it. *is one of those neurodiversity people*
It’s a bit puzzing why some neurodiversity advocates attack kgaccount on you tube when the mum is clearly not in the same camp as vaccines caused my son’s autism group. I’ve seen her videos.
Who is the pompous moron that said they’d take someone else’s autistic kid? You self righteous shitbag judging others wouldn’t last one day in the situation most these families have been dealing with for decades. You overmedicated mental cases make me sick. Murder suicide, hell no, if that were me, and I couuldn’t takae it anymore, I’d take others out before me and my kid, we’d be staying thank you very much.
I think your comments are a bit glib. Clearly murderous parents loose their minds to be capable of such a deed, so a criticism of them as though they are in their right mind is pointless. Unfortunately this is part of nature; the animal kingdom is full of filial infanticide, with lots of creatures in captivity prone to killing their young for instance, possibly because they interpret the environment as having limited resources. This is a darker element of human instinct that OF COURSE our higher reasoning should be able to control. Clearly murderous parents, who have devoted themselves to needy children day in and day out for years, must loose their heads completely. You make it sound like these people have a blast murdering their children but all evidence is to the contrary.
I’m so glad you wrote this. I especially like your line:
“While I don’t always agree with where the “neuro-diversity” crowd draws the line and I know autism symptoms can be reduced via the proper treatments, this is a case where they are right and you need to accept your child for who he/she is today.”
I’m one of the neurodiversity crowd, myself. I’m glad my autism wasn’t diagnosed until I was 15, because that means never getting many of the autism treatments. I don’t eschew all treatments, but I do think many do more harm than good.
Unfortunately, there’s a tendency to ‘take sides’ and think the other side believes everything you don’t believe in. I think it’s great when you can admit that you agree with someone on the ‘other side’ about something. I remember one person who presented at two separate conferences I attended - at the first, she was showing a (to me) sickening level of devotion towards a guy marketing ABA, a treatment I think is very dangerous if not carefully limited; at the second, she was talking about her son’s teachers using physical restraints on him and how bad she thought that was. I came up to her at the end of that second one, crying and telling her how much I liked her saying restraints were bad, and how I’d been restrained at school. Something we all have to remember - you can agree on one topic but not another. And even when we disagree on other major topics, we can unite on the ones we agree on.
My biggest gripe with neurodiversity is that it seems to minimize or not appreciate the more severely impacted. My daughter can barely communicate and just using the potty on her own is a miracle these days. Just not always even remotely comparing apples to apples.
Dear Admin:
I am puzzled by your assertation that neurodiversity “minimizes” or does not “appreciate the more severely impacted.” I know neurodiverse supporters who THEMSELVES wear diapers (because they can’t always detect when their body is signaling them that it is “time to go”) and type to communicate because they cannot talk and did not use language as a tool of communication at all until their teens (for example, Amanda Baggs, the blogger at http://ballastexistenz.autistics.org). And, yes, not every child who isn’t using language as a mode of communication at the age of 12 will necessarily achieve this by 18 … but first of all, some will: some autistic people seem to follow a course of cognitive development that doesn’t really map well to non-autistic norms, which means they may develop certain skills more slowly than others but may continue to slowly progress after an age when some non-autistic people will have plateaued. And second of all, ok yes some won’t achieve this — but some members of the neurodiverse community are not drawing their conclusions based on their *current* level of development, they are actually remembering what life was like for them back in the days when they were themselves at a similar level of development as your daughter–i.e., when they themselves had not acquired a system of communication that others understand and recognize, had not learned toileting skills, and so forth–and drawing conclusions based on this.
I don’t think they “minimize” the potential consequences of autism. How can they? Some of them have LIVED these consequences, albeit at an earlier age than where they are now. They simply draw different conclusions about what these consequences mean to quality of life, the ability to achieve happiness, to be valued etc. than some people new to neurodiversity might be prepared for.
Points taken. The outlook for a lot of our kids is not bright and you can’t blame parents for wanting the most of their kids including keeping them safe and alive. if we lived in a world that didn’t include so many of these kids being abused after their parents are gone, I could agree with you more. Thanks for comments.
As I am a single mother of a boy with autism I would never kill him. I do though think of killing myself. This is a black hole that one just cannot dig themselves out of, it is no way to live. Yes he has many talents and is good at them. Yes he has a future. Unfortunately he will alwqays need an aide, and who will step up and do that? Anyone who I can trust when I’m gone? The answer is no and there lies the doom and gloom. A constant state of doom and gloom of my reality takes hold and never lets you go.
Do not make comments unless you are in the same position and live with this day in and day out for 16 years. After you do that, then comment away. Until then keep your trap shut!
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I get that this is a difficult journey for many of you. I get that you’ve lost friends and family thanks to autism. I get that you don’t get enough help, don’t get a break. I get that many of your spouses abandoned ship long ago and left you to fight these battles alone. I get that you feel like you are on a never-ending roller coaster ride from hell. I get that you have met lots of clueless doctors and educators along the way. I get that it’s a 24/7 job and will be for the rest of your lives for a lot of you. I get that. What I don’t get is killing your kid.
I DONT GET KILLING MY KID….BUT MYSELF, YES. SOMETHING TELLS ME YOU DONT “GET IT”….READ WHAT YOU WROTE AND SEE THE BIG PICTURE OF DESPAIR FOR A SINGLE PARENT WITH LITTLE HOPE LEFT. WHEN THE HOPE RUNS OUT…THEN WHAT, MAYBE THE STATE WOULD DO A BETTER JOB CAUSE CLEARLY I’M NOT….
lavinia,
People need to develop a better evolutionary consciousness. By that I mean people need to pay attention to their thoughts and feelings and put them in an evolutionary context and then ask if given present circumstances whether or not it makes sense.
Evolution is more than just the biological. Societies and hence psychologies evolve as well, what we learn growing up is filtered through our genetically evolved senses and out comes behavior. People acting in ways that may have been evolutionarily appropriate at another time and place but is not now shows how psychology tends to lag behind these changes. It is up to you to catch it up by examining your thoughts and feelings through the spectrum of “natural selection”. Every change you make to your thoughts changes your brain chemistry a little, so you are helping reorient your own fitness.
It is every person’s imperative to work towards his or her own reproductive survival and success and that of their offspring and their friends and family. Rid your mind of all thoughts that contradict that imperative.
Speaking as an adult with mild autism who has thought a lot on this subject I can give you the reason autism rates have gone up. This is the effect of the Democratic Era, which promotes cultural values valuing “equality”, “sameness”, promoting a “jack of all trades” ideal. It has lowered people in their social lives down to the lowest common denominator. It is natural for the more intellectually robust of the population to be somewhat socially withdrawn from commoners, but typically it does not lead to the problems found in autism. Anti-intellectual attitudes and a lack of respect for “excellence” trickle down to the attitudes held by children. The hostility makes it harder for more intellectual children to connect socially, stunting social development. Furthermore less and less parents send their kids to prep schools, forcing more and more kids to socialize with the masses rather than their own kind. It is important to realize that children need to learn to socialize first with children who are like they are, otherwise they will not know what to do and will not gain social skills. In Germany specializing in liberal arts, sciences, or a technical trade is offered to students starting in middle school with separate schools for these purposes. Germany has a lower rate of autism diagnosis, most likely because it gives students the opportunity to socialize more with students who are like they are instead of negotiating through the chaotic mess they put students through in the US.
No support. No money. No family. For many of this, the life insurance is the only thing our kids will get. I’m surprised more of us don’t suicide.